The Life of a Coffeesupestah

Every time I feel like I'm at a crossroads in my life, I always unknowingly stumble upon Letters to Juliet. Letters is a romantic film headlined by Amanda Seyfried in 2010 about a group of ladies, the Secretaries of Juliet, who answer letters left by lovelorn women in Juliet's Verona courtyard. It is in this film that I got these lines: "What" and "if" are two words as nonthreatening as words can be. But put them together, side by side, and they have the power to haunt you for the rest of your life. What if? What if? What if?

I've had so many "what if's" in the past. Too many to mention, girl. So many regrets that may have led me to a different me today. Don't we all? I've never been the type who had a clear vision of what I wanted to be when I was younger. I wanted to be a lot of things, but didn't focus on just one thing. I had a high school classmate who wore a Magiging Doktor shirt, and that's exactly what she is right now. I never had that defining moment where I ultimately decided what I wanted to be. However, as I grow older, good lord I'm in my late 30's, what if's become more about the future and more looming than just a simple question.

What if I lived in the US?
In 2019, I had a taste of staying with my family in Georgia and California. I can say without trying to be offensive that I felt so much better having my family close by. Offensive because I don't want those I know here to feel invalidated. It's just that I waited for it all my life and no one else I know can understand or has the same experience. The thing is, how can I start over again? I'm almost 40. What jobs await me? Where will I live? I already have a house here. How can I bring my pets? Isn't it too late to start over again?

What if I changed careers?
Late. I hate that word. I hate late because sometimes I feel like my development is later than everyone else. My friends have families, my contemporaries have PhDs/MDs, etc. I know my journey is quite different from others, but sometimes I wonder what if I had been more proactive? Lately, I have been thinking of switching careers before it's too late. I'm getting sick, I'm missing out on things I want to do because of my schedule. I do everything at home. I have no one else to help me with errands. The more I stay on the night shift, the more effed up my schedule becomes. I've been presented with the opportunity to change that, to have more control over my schedule. Do I leave the industry that took care of me for almost two decades or do I risk stability for a job that gives me more freedom? I'm at that point where I don't want my time to be dependent on other people's decisions, where my team can change overnight without me knowing.

What if I settled down?
My first two what if's will definitely affect my third. I have never had a relationship that lasted long enough to really build a future. I can't do an Oprah with myself right now, but all i know is I am not good with relationships. But what if I were? I probably have someone coming with me to doctor's appointments, or have someone sharing expenses with me or have someone help take care of the doggos with me. Some people may ask, why don't you go back to your family home? I don't think I would. It's not a place where I can exercise complete freedom and authority, having to share and co-exist with several people. No offense meant, just the tea. But is there anyone I can settle down with? I don't know what needs to change. I'd like to think I'm a likable person. Or am I just supposed to give a "Jane, Wanda" speech in the end?

If I were asked which of these three I'm close to coming to terms with, it would be the second one. Maybe this year, maybe next year. Who knows, I'm really hoping things go well. I just don't want to look back 2-3 years from now and look at another "what if". I've had enough "what if's" haunting me. It's time I did something courageous and out of my comfort zone. What's your "what if"?

when he’s gone, will you want me?
what a fairy tale, for me, finally!

when he’s gone, will you seek me?
the way I did, for you, insanely?

when he’s gone, will you find me?
will I stand out amongst the many?

when he’s gone, I’ll be ready
as selfish as they may see me

when he’s gone, I pray, choose me
‘cause you never do, deftly

wish I could tell you
that a part of me is with you
wherever you may go
whatever you may do

wish I could tell you
how my mind paints your picture
from blurred things without hue
to a surreal, beautiful disaster

wish I could tell you
about the stories I've created
of us being together
like souls reincarnated, fated

wish I could tell you
that I melt with just one gaze
that's love you'll only know
if you were in my place

the crimson sky awaits the night
my bleeding heart still yearns for light
and as the suns and seas unite
my spirit drowns, not out of spite

if words could kill then treat me dead
you trample on where my heart bled
as I hold on to every line
wishing that his name was mine

all of this smoke has helped me hide
from looks of yours that can't decide
and when it clears, gaze at my eyes
you'll never see my timid cries

on that day, I saw you and my heart fluttered
I was a moth, looking at a lamp, enamored
I wanted to float around you in circles
'til I get consumed by the flame of your candle

but I quickly snapped back to reality
when I realized there's one uncertainty
and unless that mystery of yours unfolds
I'll keep my distance with my own warm hands to hold

I didn't know if I'd leave this to chance
or rather, risk cognitive dissonance
you're a caricature of what I want in the future
a living, breathing doppelganger

when I saw you, a part of me smiled
like I've never had, for a while
somehow, that "skip-a-beat" was missing
because now, for sure, there's no more yearning

as the taxi swiftly cruises the street
I recall memories so bittersweet
of the tug-of-war of emotions we created
for the three words, eight letters we evaded

I was stuck in crossroads I should've missed
waiting was like slowly slitting my wrist
but the bleeding has stopped, I've reached my dead end
as I alight, walk towards home, my woulds will mend

I stare at you
and every second I do
I twitch
I want to do more
I want to move forward
until you say "I am"
great conversations
lead to great expectations
I mean well
unlike others
say it, show it
waiting is aggravating
do one thing
go green

it's been quite a while since I last saw you
I must admit I've never been so blue
It's like the gloomy heavens feel what I do
as I hold back every tear, whenever I think of you

as seconds pass without you in my way
my heart keeps on crying where remnants of you lay
I wallow in loneliness, in despair, in vain
because in my mind you're a permanent stain

I tried to reach you, at least let you know I'm here
but you kept your distance like I'm something to fear
just when I thought I've finally found the one
it's then I realize, in my life, you'd rather you're gone

it's time for me to let you go without really having you
my lunacies have ended, my pains have reached their due
yet, on a lonely night, look at the skies, so dark so blue
and remember, I was like the vivid moon, just watching over you

I made a choice, a hasty decision
I made it without contemplation

I had options between red or blue
the former, I took; the other was you

I thought that choice would bring me glee
but now, I reckon, I want to flee

I'd rather sing my heart out
than wallow in self doubt

I would've chosen blue
I would've chosen you

I idly stare into nothingness
knowing that I will never witness
your timid smile that lingers
in my mind, you filled with colors

had I known that the last
time I saw you is the last
I could've not waited
to say you're appreciated

your flowers may wither
but their beauty I'll remember
and tonight in my prayer
it's your name I'll first utter